The Cheating Partner Challenge: How To Get Over The Broken Illusion

So, you found out he was cheating on you. What do you do?

Heck, that is one tough question. You don't get to answer that in a day, not in a week, a month or a year or two. Probably you never will. But it pays to give it a try.....

So....

Do You Care Enough To Save The Relationship?

First tough question, DO YOU CARE? Do you love him or her enough to fight the tide? Is he worth fighting for? Are there kids involved? Has he shown remorse? Has he promised to change and is there concrete proof that indeed he has reformed?

Obviously if you no longer feel even a tinge of hope that he will change or even try to; when you no longer give a damn whether he comes home or not and the kids are matured enough to understand, you can leave...or can you?



They say LOVE is patient and kind. So for how long will you forgive? Seventy times seven? Maybe more?

So, there- pour in all the love in the world you can! Kill him or her with kindness, sincerity and patience. Give it all you've got!

Then answer the next query.

Do You Love Yourself?

Most of the time we get trapped in the illusion that what actually completes us are the people we care for. Oftentimes we fail to hear the inner voice inside of us waiting to be heard. That tiny whisper in our hearts saying "you cannot give what you do not have". As the song says, "learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all".

So, How Do You Begin Truly Loving Yourself?

As with anything crucial in life, start slowly but surely. Start with your health. How long has it been since you had a good night's sleep? Go ahead, grab that pillow and dream! Sleep all you can until your body feels fully recharged. And yes, you should eat! But not the kind of eating that gets you to the Emergency Room. Always eat a well balanced meal. Exercise! Brisk walking is a good start. You get to enjoy the sights and burn calories. Not long after you would have achieved your ideal body weight and get to fit in your pre-relationship clothes. Go to the salon, get a new 'do; buy yourself new clothes and splash on new scents to welcome the new you.

Praying helps, always.

What do you pray for? 

Pray for inner peace. Pray for those who hurt you. Pray for guidance. Time heals all wounds. One morning you will wake up and all the pain is gone and what is left is YOU, and your new wings.

What if he or she leaves?

You've done everything there is to make the person stay. You've laid down all your cards. What is there to grieve for? Celebrate!

Celebrate life, celebrate love in all its glory! After all, when a person truly loves you, he or she will STAY....if he or she doesn't then it wasn't meant to be AT ALL...SO WHAT IS THERE TO GRIEVE FOR?