It comes as a fact of life that people are born and people die. Even though we know it will happen some day, it can be a shock when it is sudden and unexpected. It can be a bit of a taboo subject, but it shouldn’t be. That is why it is a good idea to have some advice lined up for planning a funeral. It could be your own that you are planning ahead of time. It could be for that of a loved one. You will have so many emotions at the time of the loss, so it is a good idea to have a few ideas up your sleeve before hand. You don’t want to overwhelm yourself or get stressed out. It will already be a stressful and emotional situation!
Most of the time you will have a funeral home that will help to arrange a lot of things. There are small details to think about, though. If your friend or family member passed away at a ripe old age, chances are you will have known some of their wishes. Did they want their funeral to be at a specific place or church? Did they want to be cremated or buried? If you aren’t sure about that, this can feel like a big decision. Go for whatever feels right to you. You can even get something special for you to treasure if they are cremated, by turning their ashes into diamonds. You might like to have such a keepsake of your loved one that can be passed on from generation to generation.
For the funeral service, think about who you can ask to help out. Are there lots of people that you could invite to take part? Again, the funeral home will have people that you can use, but it makes it so much nicer if family and friends help. You will need people to be ushers. They will help give out programs and help people to their seats. You might want to plan the seating ahead of time and have family all at the front, for example. If you do this, be sure to let the ushers know who can be seated at the front and who can’t.
If your loved one is being buried, you will need pallbearers too. These people will assist in carrying the coffin to and from the funeral car. It is an important role, so family members and close friends are the ones that are asked. It is, of course, up to them if they feel able to do so.
It might depend on religious views or family traditions if there is a wake after the funeral or not. Some people get together to have a meal; for others, it might be more of a potluck. Would this be for family only or for all that attended the funeral? Will it be after the burial or cremation or before? Just a few things to be thinking about, for after the service. It is never a nice time to have to talk about these kinds of things, but I hope that it helps if you are ever in that situation. Thanks for reading.