Monday, November 18, 2013

5 Things To Think About Before He Moves In

So it’s the big moment, and you have decided to share your home with your partner. What an exciting time of your lives! There are lots of things to consider besides the excitement of the fact that you will be able to hang out all the time, as you will be sharing your lives, not just your space. Here are 5 things to think about before he moves in.

Paying Rent

Moving in with your partner in the heat of the moment is all well and good but you both need to be clear about what the costs of the living expenses are, so you don’t end up with one of you paying for everything. Before he moves in work out how much money you will each need to be putting into the kitty for the general household expenses such as rent, electricity, gas etc and perhaps organise a direct debit so that it is all done fairly. Should things go pear shaped and one of you needs to get out at least these things will be covered in a calm manner.


Having some ground rules about guests is really important, and communicating effectively about what each needs in relation to this is a must. Work out how you both feel about guests staying, and who, if any of each other’s friends are off limits from your mutual abode.


If one of you is a clean freak and the other likes to live in squalor then it might not be a match made in heaven, even if you get along like a house on fire. Having said that, if you are both willing to compromise and communicate about what you need then it could really work and everyone might become a rounder, mature human being from the experience.

Quality Time

As a couple you will find that now that you live together it might be difficult to work out who needs space and when, so make sure that you communicate about how it’s going to work with getting your own space. If one person likes to have a lot of ‘me’ time and the other wants to live close then you need to work all this stuff out before you move in together so everyone is happy.

Is it Long Term?

You might not want to hear this, but it has to be asked. There has probably not been a woman/or man on the earth who has not made the mistake of moving in with someone and it all falling apart. When two people move in together they often think that it will be forever, and it can look like that when you have the rose coloured glasses on, but be realistic. One thing that you don’t want to do is get rid of your stuff to make room for his, and then find that you need to buy it all back again. One way to ensure that you both have a plan B is to hire a storage unit to keep all those double up things for a period, let’s just say 6 months, and that way you can make a clear decision later on when the honeymoon period has worn off. For info about storage units click here.

Jess Thompson is a writer from Australia who focuses on relationship advice.

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