Losing a loved one is a painful experience. At times it can feel completely overwhelming. Dealing with that grief takes time. When the initial rawness eases, some people take comfort in remembering and memorializing that person in some way. There are many simple and thoughtful ways you can do this.
1. A Simple Memory Book
When a person you love dies, the pain of missing them can seem unbearable. So it makes sense to gather their photographs around you. Anything with a link to them seems significant and can help you begin to heal. Putting together a photo album of their life is a reminder of the happy times you shared.
Memory books go one step further. Rather than using a traditional photograph album, a scrapbook can be used instead. As well as adding photos you can also paste in other mementos of their life. For example, ticket stubs, quotes, things they used to say, etc. Each member of the family could have their own page where they remember their loved one in a way that is unique to them.
If you prefer, your memory book can be created digitally by scanning photos and other tokens. This can be created into an e-book to share with loved ones. Or, you could order printed copies. Either way, this makes a beautiful and personal memorial.
2. A Collection
The personal possessions of someone who has passed away carry a lot of significance to their family and friends. It could be lots of things such as a watch, jewelry, tools, books, etc. Displaying those personal possessions in a meaningful way can bring comfort to the people they left behind. There are countless ways you could go about this.
- Setting up a shelf, shrine, or altar dedicated to their life
- Displaying items in a decorative way or in a shadow box
- Creating a memory box or glass case
3. Preserving Their Ashes
If your loved one was cremated, you might be unsure of what to do with their ashes. This is an important decision as you want the tribute to be fitting. Many people choose to scatter their ashes in one of their favorite places. Others prefer to intern them in an ashes grave. If you decide to keep them with you, you can store and display them in a decorative urn.
There are also ways that you can carry your loved one with you throughout your life. The Victorians had a tradition of taking a lock of hair and wearing it or carrying it with them. In a similar way, it is now possible to turn ashes into diamonds. The diamond can be transformed into a piece of jewelry to be kept with you always.
Another personal way sometimes chosen by family members, is to have their loved one’s ashes made into a tattoo. Some of the ashes are mixed with the ink. This is then tattooed onto their skin as a permanent symbol of their love.
Nothing will take away the pain of grief and loss. It is something that most of us will go through at some point in our lives. Memories are painful at first. But one day you will be able to look back in happiness at the time you spent together.