Love is the most powerful of emotions. It could either make you or break you. Women tend to be easily swept off their feet when a man proposes with promises of heaven and Earth and everything else in between. We are genetically predisposed to respond to men's luring. As women we have to learn to protect ourselves from being stuck in disastrous relationships and end up being beaten by the man we thought would love us for all eternity. Thank God not all men are bad and there are many out there who truly know how to take care of a woman.
Tension Building Phase
Acute Battering Incident
What is Battered Woman Syndrome or Battered Wife Syndrome?
-is a reference to any person who...
because of constant and severe domestic violence usually involving physical abuse by a partner, may become depressed and/or unable to take any independent action that would allow him or her to escape the abuse...
The condition explains why abused people may not;
seek assistance from others,
fight their abuser,
or leave the abusive situation...
Sufferers may have low self-esteem, and are often led to believe that the abuse is their fault.
Such persons may refuse to press charges against their abuser, or refuse all offers of help, perhaps even becoming aggressive or abusive to others who attempt to offer assistance.
THE THREE STAGE CYCLE FOUND IN DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
-involves minor battering incidents
Acute Battering Incident
-the abusive partner releases tension via violence while blaming the victim for having caused the violence
Aftermath or Honeymoon Stage
-the husband apologizes and promises not to do the deed again and tries hard to be sweet and forgiven
~the sad thing is, the cycle is repeated when no external force successfully intervenes~
CAN WE DO SOMETHING TO PREVENT THIS FROM HAPPENING TO US AND THE ONES
WE LOVE?
"We definitely can! Easier said than done yet yes we could keep our children protected from future abuse by keeping the channels of communication in our own families open and constantly guiding our kids so they would grow up to be God-fearing, loving and caring people. Someday when the RIGHT TIME comes they will have the capacity to CHOOSE THE RIGHT PERSON TO SPEND THE REST OF THEIR LIVES WITH. The key is to always be there for them no matter what.
FOR THOSE WHO ARE ALREADY SUFFERING FROM MARITAL ABUSE
while there are many institutions and organizations that could aid them
they must first realize that they are in the situation and that
THEY NEED HELP!
Have you Ever Been Hit By Your Partner?
Does Your Partner Beat You When You Argue?
YOU ARE NOT ALONE
~there are people who care and professionals and authorities who could
HELP YOU.....
Reach Out To Whom You Are Most Comfortable To Talk To
...then Everything Will Fall Into Place
JUST KEEP THE FAITH.....
Many have won the same battle....Yes YOU CAN TOO...
~INFO Source: WIKIPEDIA
~for all the women out there who are suffering and afraid to come out into the open,
the author is willing to listen, reach out to us via the contact page/ ~
-from my humble world to yours-
I know some women in my circle who have been battered wives at one point. Most of them got out of the marriage even before the situation gotten worse or someone would seriously get hurt or even die in the process. I heard their individual accounts and I shudder on the thought of hoe they tried to make things work for the sake of the kids. However, there are just plain bad men around.
ReplyDeleteI hope, women out there who are in this kind of predicament will stand up for themselves and their kids, if they have any. They should have self-preservation too. If the guy hits you, it's time to walk out. I always believe that a man is capable of hurting you violently and when he does, even just once, he can do it again.
Ria C
This is a very helpful post about battered woman :-) This will help many women to stand and fight for their rights :-) I know it is easy said than done. I may not a battered wife but I do not have perfect marriage :-)
ReplyDeletethis is a great post...and an eye-opener!
ReplyDeleteI admire her for speaking up and had the courage to tell her story.
I never want to be in battered woman's shoe, I don't think I would be able to bear the emotional pain and torment.
ReplyDeleteThere might be underlying reasons why some women are battered. It could be the guys, or some actions of a woman have provoked a guy to hurt her. But still physically hurting her is not an excuse, it shows he doesn't have enough respect and love. A man and a woman needs to show this to each other in a relationship, it not, there is no point of staying together.
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I don't want to see myself in such traumatic situation. I'm just fortunate to have a husband of more than 18 years who never dare put his hand on me. Battered wives or partners should speak out.
ReplyDeleteakala ko sila yung mga women who are low in energy, yung bang lowbat. LOL I have a friend who is a certified battered wife and she ask me for counsel, you know what...she can't follow my advice, why? All she uttered was, I don't like my children to lose a father. Tama ba naman yun. Nasayang lang payo ko. ha..ha..ha..
ReplyDeleteIt is so sad that there are women in this heart breaking situations. I'm blessed to be married to a loving and kind man. Arguments are still there but it's natural and the good part is we both acknowledge our mistakes and solve the issue at the end.
ReplyDeleteI swear I cried when I saw this interview on Youtube. But I think it's better that Aiai for this matter has gotten out of the relationship early on.
ReplyDeleteI feel so bad for Ai-Ai. She doesn't deserve such a man. Nagmahal lang naman sya eh. Yun nga lang sa maling tao pa! :/
ReplyDeletethanks for sharing this well written article...i agree with everything you've said. :) been there and done that, thanks that God still loves me, I am happier now...I am really blessed! :) anyway, i was crying when i watched aiai's interview, but i admired her for speaking out and finding it earlier...and was brave enough to get out of the relationship, not everyone made it. though i did. :)
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